I was recently talking to one of my friends who is still nursing her baby, her kids are younger than mine. She said that she really loves the bonding aspect of nursing and she feels she might miss it once her baby grows up. I assured her that most likely, if she weans her nursling naturally, she won’t really miss it.
|That’s how I feel – serene and happy|
That is exactly what this post is about. Letting things happen in their time and allowing your instinct guide you throughout the process. When I started nursing my firstborn, the first two weeks were rough. I so wanted to breastfeed but it was difficult without any experience. The lactation consultant in the hospital helped me a little but it still felt like a struggle at first. However, after these two long weeks things got easier for us and our nursing became easy. I didn’t even plan on how long I would be nursing for. At one year mark, I felt confident that this was the right thing to do and we continued. When my second daughter was born, I tandem nursed for a year, then my firstborn weaned and I just had one at my breast. Altogether, I admit, I nursed for a total of 7 years. When my second daughter was ready, I slightly nudged her towards the decision to wean and she did. I DID NOT REGRET that at all. I gave them the best I could and I felt happy and confident they had their fill of bonding at my breast, happy memories, enough nutrition and snuggles and so did I. Once this point was reached there cannot be any regrets.
As soon as each of them was weaned from the breast, they were also sleeping through the night. I didn’t sleep well in 7 years and the moment they both reached that milestone I didn’t look back. It was only natural to enjoy my sleep again.
Then, as the time goes, I realize that each phase of their life is precious. I was totally in love with my little chubby babies and I enjoyed when they became toddlers. I always think that this particular time in their life is special and I want to cherish it as much as I can. Now, you guessed it, I love that time they are in right now. Logically, there is much to enjoy. No more diapers, nursing, they are quite independent and resourceful and still young, snugly and cuddly. I can go with them to park and leave when I want without a meltdown.
All in all, I believe we are past the early childhood phase. While I enjoyed these young years and struggled to stay sane at the same time, I am happy to be where I am now. It seems they are happy and content, too. I don’t think I gave them too much of my attention and I don’t ever regret taking them everywhere with me. Only recently I gained more independence myself as they are mature and happy to amuse themselves (under daddy’s watch) at home when I want to go out alone. I know it took long and for some it may not be an option but for me it was worthy to arrive at this moment of personal freedom after 8 years. To sum it up, I don’t regret anything, I feel happy and light and ready for new challenges and endeavors life has in store for me.