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Each time I hit a major milestone I reflect on my life and on how I perceive myself in this new stage of my life. When I turned thirty I had made some observations that helped me adjust better to a new me. But turning forty is a little trickier, at least to me. This is when we women start to notice the sings of aging, the delicate, at first, lines around our eyes, the symptoms of fading of our beauty. In this society that values most of all physical attractiveness, body and its beauty is put on a pedestal. Commercials, movies, songs glorify the appearance, smooth skin, long legs, beautiful eyes without crow’s feet. We are bombarded with numerous slogans stating that we must capture the fleeting youth as commercials push on us their newest miracle products designed to reverse the effects of aging. As this is a very sensitive issue for many women, we are tempted to fork out and purchase the advertised article.
We, women are especially vulnerable to believe that our true value is only skin deep, good as long as our beauty and youth remains. The stereotype is that men are supposed to be strong and financially fit while women’s main asset is their beauty. However, as we know it, physical beauty slowly dissipates with age. The desire to stay young forever is not a new idea. In the past alchemists were searching for philosophers’ stone which legendary properties (beside turning metals into gold) were to grant an owner a youthful appearance and immortality. A philosopher’s stone, known also as an elixir of life had been on minds of many rich and powerful people throughout the history, who would meditate upon it, and some, who would pay large sums of money to obtain it. As we can see, a quest for youth is a human thing. But how we go about our aging is what concerns me.
While I value looking attractive, I don’t put too much pressure on myself to fit into standards of today’s beauty canons. I know there are numerous products out there that are supposed to be clinically proven to reverse the effects of aging but I choose not to use them. Miracle creams, lotions, cosmetic surgeries that improve your looks, they can be as wonderful as they claim to be, I steer clear of them. Why?
- Because I believe in natural cycle of life. There is nothing unnatural about growing older and showing signs of maturity. Even if my face tells exactly what my age is, I am fine with that. My wrinkles around my eyes are a proof that I love to smile and cherish beautiful things in life. I don’t lament them.
- I am also particularly wary of cosmetics that claim to be a solution for all aging problems but if you look into their ingredient’s list you may choose not to apply them to your body. There are many ingredients that are simply harmful to your body.
- Cosmetic surgeries are designed to improve someone’s appearance (I am not discussing here reconstructive surgeries) and are promoted as safe and easy but are, in fact, invasive procedures that I would personally avoid. I am not vain, I can deal with a little less than a perfect body, but this body is mine, not a product of some surgeon.
Being a skeptic, I view most of the above as unnecessary. I prefer a simpler life and value the things that are not always visible to a naked eye. As beauty slowly fades away, I feel I have gained more wisdom. My intellect works about the same now as it used to, if not better. I treasure my gifts that come with growing more mature. I have gained experience and wit that I haven’t had ten years ago. Bad and good things happened to me in a meantime and I made the best out of it. Remember, your beauty comes from an inside, a positive attitude is my trick, happiness that shines from my face works really good instead of a hundred dollar cream. Being forty is not a bad thing at all, even with the wrinkles…
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