Parenting is one of my favorite subjects to write about and I do so because I see how many parents have trouble understanding how to make it an enjoyable and satisfying experience.
I view my role of a mother as that of a guide rather than of a dictator. Sometimes, I chose to be kind rather than right, knowing that being loving and kind matters more than winning a power struggle. I set the rules and boundaries for my children but I take into consideration their point of view, too. I make a conscious choice to parent from heart. That means, I look into my heart each time there is a problem. I try to see how I would feel in their situation and go from there. My goal is to raise children who will want to share their lives and be near me when I am old. I want to infuse them with my wisdom and values now when they are still young and impressionable. I want to create a bond that will last a lifetime.
I like Mahatma Gandhi’s words “You must be the change you wish to see in the world“. Since I deeply believe in parenting based on mutual trust and respect – these are the truths I want to embrace and make popular. Parenting from heart allows us to view children as unique beings who come to this Earth with their own gifts and are here to develop them. Being their parent means for us to foster their unique talents, be their guide and a loving teacher. My own understanding is that we don’t choose our offspring, we are chosen as parents by our children. As they are growing up, it is our role to help them navigate through the process of self-discovery, to find out their own self.
Modeling truthfulness and kindness brings greater results than any other parenting method. I do not like parenting strategies that are based on lack of respect for the children (or anyone for that matter), violence, aggressive behavior, verbal abuse. I also am convinced that parenting is a privilege, a choice we make and that’s why it is not something to take lightly.
Here are some simple rules that I believe in:
- My children are unique beings and come to this life to learn and grow their talents.
- I am here to guide them to learn, discover who they are and what their talents/challenges are.
- I trust them and they, in return, trust me.
- I treat them with dignity and expect the same from them.
- I offer them unconditional love so they know they can come to me no matter what.
- I recognize their uniqueness and try to accommodate their needs.
- I am using my intuition to guide me.